The Family Medical Leave Act of does not apply to me. It granted 12 weeks a year of unpaid leave with benefits intact and job security for persons who worked for a public agency, a business with 50 or more employees in a 75 mile radius, who had worked for the company at least hours in the last 12 months. In other words, you have to have worked some place for a year, and that place has to have 50 or more employees, or be public agency in order to qualify for these federal benefits. My term of service for my national service with AmeriCorps ends February 3rd; I have worked with a nonprofit for the last two years, and probably qualify as a public employee — but since my service is ending, much like a contract position does, it is all a moot point.
Douglas and Meredith W. Michaels Free Press, A few years ago -- in the winter ofto be exact -- I wrote an article about the proliferation of expert advice to mothers on the World Wide Web. There she is in an family advice article in the current issue of Parenting magazine, jumping gleefully on an unmade bed with her preschooler while — get this — wearing a lampshade on her head.
Even with my cynical worldview, it looks like these gals have a pretty enviable lifestyle. But unless the reader is paying close attention, the fact that The Mommy Myth is also a very scholarly work might escape notice.
Though Douglas and Michaels may have had legitimate concerns about coming across as too academic, a real bibliography would have been a nice touch. Mom-- however lofty her own hopes for herself, and whatever her financial circumstances, whatever embattled neighborhood she lives in, however scarring her own upbringing, however lousy her educational options-- must simply make the right choices.
Those who might be tempted to see through the fallacy of it all are regaled with news reports emphasizing the unspeakable tragedies that await children whose mothers dare to deviate from the One True Path of momism. Douglas and Michaels go beyond analyzing prime examples of the new momism in broadcast and print media to muck around in the unwholesome stuff lurking below the flimsy plastic face of the New Mom.
The Mommy Myth lays out the ugly details of how the hell we ended up living in an extremely wealthy nation that lacks basic social programs to support working families, and why no one seems to care.
Why is middle-class mothering tied to such a distinctively warped ethic of over-consumption?
Why do work and family still conflict when employed single parents and dual-earner couples are overwhelmingly the norm? It is not, however, a book that will appeal to everyone; if you consider yourself a conservative -- even a compassionate one -- The Mommy Myth will probably make your blood boil.
And they supply a possible ending, although I had a hard time appreciating the hackneyed humor that dominates the concluding chapter my apologies to the authors, who I think are brilliant, but Ann Crittenden has been telling that Survivor joke for years — so go ahead, laugh it up, but at least go for something original.
The Mommy Myth suggests that a better future for mothers depends on taking motherhood as we know it apart and piecing it back together in a way that supports civilized things like shared parenting and gender equality, and a welfare state that actually helps mothers, fathers and children lead more secure lives instead of making matters worse.
The starting point is recognizing and resisting the new momism, loud and clear, whenever and wherever we find it.
From there, we can begin to imagine how we might cultivate the collective consciousness necessary to mobilize a progressive mothers movement and tie up the loose ends of the feminist agenda.
Mothers need to start telling it like it is -- to each other and whoever else will listen.THE VETERAN, HIS WIFE AND THEIR MOTHERS: PRESCRIPTIONS FOR PSYCHOLOGICAL REHABILITATION AFTER WORLD WAR II Rebecca Jo Plant1 In early , the wife of a World War II veteran sat down at a typewriter and. The new momism is a highly romanticized and yet demanding view of motherhood in which the standards for success are impossible to meet (4).
In their new book, "The Mommy Myth" authors, Susan Douglas and Meredith Michaels believe it's time to redefine the role of mother. Douglas defines "the new Momism," by saying, "It's a highly. Momism was rooted in a male reaction to the modernization of gender roles.
In the early twentieth century, as women entered the competitive realms of paid labor and politics (achieving national suffrage in ), men increasingly questioned the Victorian belief in female moral superiority and challenged the assumption that mother love was a wholly .
Coined by journalist Philip Wylie (in reference to Freud) as a derogatory term used to describe mothers who were smothering their children; now it is used by the media to seemingly celebrate motherhood with a set of ideals, norms and practices that in reality represent perfection impossible for mothers to obtain.
The ‘new momism’ is a set of ideals, norms, and practices, most frequently and powerfully represented in the media, that seem on the surface to celebrate motherhood, but which in reality promulgate standards of perfection that are beyond your reach (5).